Entering the dating scene after the end of a significant relationship can be overwhelming. There are several things to consider before initiating the dating game. First give yourself time to heal. Whether you lost your partner to death, divorce or a mutual parting you must grieve your loss. Research reports we need six months of healing for every five years you were involved in the relationship. Use your support system of family, friends, faith and counseling to get through this difficult time.
Take time for yourself. Go for a haircut or spa treatment. Head out to the gym for that workout you never had time for. Update your wardrobe and plan an evening out with friends. This time of healing can help you to reconnect with yourself and the things that you enjoy doing.
When you are ready to start dating again let your friends and family know. They may know of a single person that may have common interests that you share. If you are in the age group of 45 to 54 years you are more likely to meet a partner online. Harris Interactive surveyed 10,000 people who married in the United States in 2006 and 2007; found 31% from 45 to 54 years met online. Only 18% aged 20 to 44 years met online. Younger adults were still meeting at college, work, and other functions.
If you are a single parent it will be important to discuss dating with your children. Let them know that you are making new friends and just enjoying their company. Then do not introduce prospective partners to your children until you are sure that you are both committed to the relationship. You don’t want to hurt or confuse your children by having them becoming attached to someone you are dating who has no intention of a future commitment.
Dating can be fun and discouraging. Start with casual activities like a coffee at the bookstore or a drink after work. Try to enjoy your new found freedoms of being single. Dating is an important part of the courtship journey. Just relax and have fun.
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