Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Learning Love Languages

February is believed to be the month that we should declare our love to the people in our life. Actually we should share those feelings with each other every day and not put all our expectations into a commercial holiday.

Gary Chapman author of The Five Love Languages series says that there are five ways that people communicate their love to each other.
  • Physical touch
  • Words of affirmation
  • Quality time
  • Gifts
  • Acts of service

Knowing how the special people in your life need to feel emotionally connected to you is important. Discuss these different love languages and communicate honestly with your partner how you need to be loved. Once this need is acknowledged and you are working to communicate openly, your relationship will build trust and not the walls that grow to keep your heart protected.

Don't wait until you are in crisis and believe the love is completely gone. Seek professional help when needed or when you don't know how to rebuild that special relationship.

Best wishes,


Tuesday, February 10, 2009

30 Days to Create a New You

Are your New Year resolutions a faint memory? At this time your new healthy behaviors should have become a permanent routine for you. Studies are reporting it takes 30 days of consistency to change behavioral patterns. This is a difficult time consuming process for some individuals. Novelist Arnold Bennett states "Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts." So if you find change difficult to handle you are not alone. Change is the only constant that we have in life so let's learn how to use it to our advantage.

First30Days is an organization that has developed nine principles to help us change and reach our goals.
  • Change your point of view. A positive outlook can motivate you to look outside the box.
  • Something good will come of the situation you are experiencing that can lead to a brighter future.
  • You are stronger than you think. Start with small changes and feel the rewards of success before you take on a more challenging behavioral change.
  • Recognize that negative thoughts will hinder your progress and attitude toward success.
  • Accept the process of change and do not fight to resist it. Resistance to change is wasted energy.
  • You can only control what you think and feel.
  • Connect with you spirituality for tranquility and wisdom.
  • Let your support system know you need help when your resolve for change weakens.
  • When you feel stuck in a rut, any change can help you regain momentum.

So if you have forgotton about those New Year resolutions it might be time to rethink what went wrong and make the changes you need to succeed.

Best wishes,