Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Shy or Separation Anxiety

There are many types of anxiety that have been determined to have a genetic basis, but it comes back to the age old question of nature-vs-nurture. If a person is genetically predisposed to anxiety they will need to learn ways to cope with the daily situations encountered that may cause anxiety.

Being a parent of a child who is shy or displays anxiety in situations where they are separated from their caregivers can be stressful for both the parent and child. It is important that the parent or caregiver does not transfer their anxiety to the child or become over protective when in social situations. Knowing your child's triggers and preparing them for the experience is a good step to take in helping them learn how to cope with the issue. It is important that the caregiver support the child but not enable them to continue their pattern of distress.

Start with small gatherings that are structured so that your child can build on their small successes. You could attend a story hour, church function, or an activity of interest for your child. You can practice the situation with role plays so that your child can visualize the successful interaction with their peers.

If you don't see any progress after attempting these suggestions you may want to seek a professional for more suggestions. Developmentally your child may out grow these concerns but we all want our children to live a happy childhood. Never hesitate to seek advice when needed.

Best wishes,

Gina

Thursday, February 07, 2008

Eating Family Meals Together Nourishes Your Relationships

In our fast paced lifestyle eating the traditional meals together are rapidly becoming a thing of the past. This family ritual has been an important bonding time for the family over several generations. It not only teaches your children the proper social etiquette when dining but also encourages healthy eating habits. Studies are also reporting that the children not only engage in a healthier lifestyle but that their grades are better and they display higher self-esteem.

Your adolescent will most likely be irritated with this request to participate with family conversation but studies again report that they really want to spend more time with you. It can be a time to discuss what is stressful for them at school and socially. You can also get everyone involved in the meal preparation to learn those necessary life long skills.

Enjoy the simple pleasures in life!!

Take care,
Gina