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Today the social appropriate term for a “bully” is
relational aggression.This is a major
concern for most of our children in school.The movies today that focus on child development will have scenes where
a group of students will be aggressive toward an individual by playing spiteful
tricks and saying or writing cruel things behind their back.These behaviors are intended to be cruel and
humiliate the targeted individual.
There are two types of relational aggression, proactive and
reactive.Proactive is focused toward
the victim with the purpose to exclude, ignore, gossip, taunt, tease, and intimidate.Reactive aggression is the victim’s response
to the provocation.Most people assume that
boys are more aggressive than girls because boys will generally act out their
aggression physically by hitting, shoving or kicking.While girls usually utilize more subtler or
passive aggression by gossiping, group exclusion, cyber bullying and rumor
spreading. Both types of aggression are equally harmful and can cause long-term
issues for their victim. Victims can suffer self-esteem damage and are usually
lonely, anxious children.Unfortunately,
the aggressor usually suffers from the same concerns and will try to control
their environment with aggression.
Parents can help by monitoring their children as they play when
they are learning how to make friends, share and take turns.If there is an argument while the children
play together, explain the other child’s perspective on issues as they occur. Help
them look for a compromise or move on to play something completely different.
This can help children develop empathy for others, trust, cooperation, and
respect.Guiding your child through the
process of conflict resolution also teaches them healthy social skills that
guide them through the turbulent adolescent years. When your child is faced with relational
aggression listen to their story and be supportive. You should always contact
school administration when necessary and seek professional counseling as
As we all experience the daily stress of life with family,
work and personal relationships there are many individuals struggling to sleep uninterrupted
through the night. When suffering with anxiety and depression or under extreme
duress our mind will start processing our concerns while we are trying to fall
asleep or wake us up after sleeping for a couple of hours.It is very difficult to perform daily tasks
effectively or problem solve concerns if we are fatigued and irritable.
Natural ways to
Prevention magazine reports simple steps that everyone can
follow so that they can “sleep like a baby.”
breakfast your heaviest meal.
out the caffeine after 2 PM.
outside when it is sunny to reset your awake-sleep cycle.
your eight, 8 oz. glasses of water each day.
every day, preferably in the morning.
15 minute nap when needed.
bed when you are sleepy.
the television out of the bedroom.
a sleep schedule and stick to it.
herbal teas instead of sleeping pills.
If you have difficulty falling asleep and have for several
months you could be sleep deprived.You
may need an assessment to determine if you have a sleep disorder that should be
treated such as sleep apnea, insomnia or restless leg syndrome. Inadequate
sleep can affect your hormone levels, mood stability and weight concerns. Practice
good self-care daily and seek professional help when needed to have the quality
of life that you deserve.
Music has evolved over the centuries to become an important
part of our culture.Archaeologists
have found a variety of musical artifacts that were used for entertainment and in
important ceremonies or rituals in all parts of the world. Today music continues
to be a form of expression for the artist and the listener.Music contributes to weddings, graduations
and funerals along with the daily enjoyment of listening to the radio, favorite
CD or iPod tune selections.
Researchers have been consistent to report the benefits of music
and how it can affect our mood.Music can
reduce stress and bring peace to the mind and body.If you are having trouble sleeping you might
want to play a lullaby before bed.A
lullaby has been found to lower your
heart rate and slow down your respiration for a night of uninterrupted
sleep.Playing lullabies as you prepare
yourself and your children for bed will benefit everyone.
If you are working out at the gym or on your own, music can
stimulate your energy level and help your endurance for a longer workout.Studies report that including music to your
workout promotes verbal fluency and lung performance.
Listening to music of your choice will lower your stress
hormone cortisol and increase your endorphins that support your immune
system.Your personal taste in music can
either lift your mood or bring you down.Music can improve your optimism or bring you joy and peace.It’s a wonderful tool to give our mind, body
and soul a break from the hectic pace of each day.