Couples that have been together for any length of time often forget what the original attraction was to each other. The day to day irritations of quirky habits begin a cycle of unresolved differences. The dirty laundry on the floor, dishes that need to be put away, a toilet that needs fixed become big issues when the partner feels neglected, unloved or not appreciated.
Relationships are a two-way street. If one partner nags relentlessly communication stops and the blame game begins. Most arguments are based with one partner’s concept of how things should be done from finances to laundry. Discussing these concerns with “I” statements will help diffuse the issue and open the partner to active listening. Sharing your needs in a respectful way and brainstorming at least two alternatives to try will allow couples to step out of the argument and begin to problem-solve the concerns.
Staying emotionally and intimately connected to your partner is difficult with the hectic pace of today. Couples should try to allocate one evening a week as their “date night” and take turns in planning an activity. It can be as simple as staying home and turning off all electronic devices so that you can both focus on each other without interruption. This lets your partner know that spending time together is a priority for you. When you fix their favorite meal, compliment their strengths, or purchase a thoughtful gift your partner will feel loved. That thoughtful gesture will bring a smile to their face and keep your relationship healthy.
Best wishes,
Gina
