Sunday, November 17, 2013

Keeping Love Fresh

Healthy relationships are vital to your physical and mental health. They protect us from heart disease and boost our immune system. Relationships aren’t built on sexual intimacy alone. Marriages will change as the couple matures. After the children are launched many couples will feel estranged and wonder if they know their partner any longer. They search for commonalities in the marriage and question whether they want to spend another 20 or 30 years together.

Mature relationships

Keeping a relationship vibrant can be a challenge at any age. New relationships by nature are fun and exciting. When a couple has a new experience together it will build closeness or intimacy. Sexual intimacy will move from very frequent to a more comfortable satisfaction with a partner. Dr. Terri Orbuch author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great says, “Boomers are feeling more sexual than their parents did, so they need to learn ways to add spark to that long-term relationship. And, if they are single then there are ways to meet that someone special – places online, dating clubs and even blind dates.”

Mature relationships do become more mundane with the responsibility of work and children which dictate a daily pattern. A mature relationship can use the concepts of dating to reignite their marriage by learning new ways to connect and communicate.

Keep the spark alive

A couple must have the mindset that a divorce isn’t an option. If you are busy deciding on exit strategies you’re not focused on problem solving the concern. Deal breakers in a relationship would be any type of abuse, adultery or addiction.

Couples can start by just sharing basic courtesies to each other. Allow your partner to sleep in a morning. Compliment your partner and let them know that you appreciate what they do for you every day. Greet them with a hug, kiss and a smile to let them know you are glad to see them. You could even send a text message or email during the day to let them know you are thinking about them.

To add spunk and revitalize your relationship it’s fun to be unpredictable sometimes. Try planning a day trip or spend the night at a local bed and breakfast for some uninterrupted quality time. Be passionate about life. Learn something new together, hold hands and just be a good listener. Assess the balance in your life emotionally, physically, and spiritually to become a better spouse and partner. Commit to taking care of yourself so you have the emotionally energy for yourself and the people in your life.