The death of a relationship, no matter how long it lasted,
is always intense and difficult. When you process the obstacles that were faced,
it is important that both parties accept their part in the discord that has led
to the separation. During this time it would help to create a support system
that will provide you emotional support. Then allow yourself the time to heal
and grieve the loss. This will help you to accept the situation and visualize a
new beginning.
Divorce
Society refers to divorce as a “failed marriage”. Many
marriages have ended emotionally prior to the filing of divorce paperwork.
These marriages weren’t failures if you are able to retain what was learned or
enjoyed from the relationship when it was healthy. In the course of life things
happen to people that cause them to change. Sometimes those events cause
relationships to end. That doesn’t mean the relationship failed when it was no
longer viable. The marriage was successful for the years the couple was happy
and together.
Move forward
Many couples facing divorce will concentrate on who to blame
for the cause of the divorce. It really doesn’t matter whose fault it is. You
are still facing the reality that the relationship is over and the question of
how to move forward. Obsessing about the loss and filling your life with anger
will only hinder your progress in healing. Focus on yourself. Your new life is
a work in progress.
Acknowledge that you need to heal from this experience
before seeking a new partner. Then find the courage to be proactive and resolve
the details to finalize the divorce. This will allow you to accept that the
relationship is over so that you can look forward to the premise of a new
beginning. Try seeking fulfillment in other ways by finding employment that
engages your skills and improves your marketability. This will eventually
improve your income and financial stability. Make time in your life for the fun
things that you like to do. Relish the freedom that you now have over your own
schedule. Focus on the positive and stay healthy by eating right and
exercising. Make this a part of your daily lifestyle. The best option you have
is to live well while enjoying life.
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