Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again

Divorce rates are remaining steady at 50% survival rate for first marriages. If you are struggling to not be part of the latest statistics then you might want to read Dr. Laura Berman's new book Real Sex for Real Women. She has worked as a sex educator, researcher, and therapist for the last 18 years. Dr. Berman has a few ideas on how to put that spark back into your dying romance.

1. Be the model for change. If you believe your partner is not loving, understanding or appreciative of your concerns then model those behaviors for your partner. You will get what you give in a relationship.
2. Own your 100 percent. Own your part of the problem that occurs in the relationship and then take the necessary steps to correct them.
3. Initiate sexual contact. If you want a more passionate sex life then initiate the contact with your partner and work to make that happen.
4. Talk about your needs in a positive manner. Stop the blame game and speak to your partner in "I" messages. Explain your needs and work together to resolve them.

Then take the steps to stay connected to your partner. Make plans for a date night. Share new experiences together and try to not talk about your day to day stressors. Relationships are a constant work in progress. It doesn't get easier, you just have to be more creative.

Good luck!!

Gina