Supporting Your Child in the School System

Being a parent or a caregiver is one of the most difficult roles that we have as an adult. We can become overwhelmed at times with the responsibility of raising and providing for our children. As parents we are challenged with each stage of growth and development that our child presents. When children enter the school system, they will spend more time at school with their teacher and friends than they will at home. Children will have problems that occur at school because for the next twelve years it is their reflective world. Helping your children communicate assertively and be proactive to resolve issues will help them to build their self-esteem.

Be Proactive

If your child is having difficulty at school, it will be important to use the school resources. Many school districts use programs that you can download to keep parents updated on homework assignments, daily behavior and grades. Your child’s classroom could have over twenty students for the teacher to instruct. Parents should visit their child’s classroom to observe the learning process and then volunteer your time to support your child and the teacher.

Build Social Skills

Some children will do very well academically but display developmental delays with social skills. If you notice that your child plays alone and complains that no one likes him or her this will create anxiety. Children will question where they belong outside of the family system. Parents can enroll their children in a sport of their choice or an organization like Boy Scouts or Girl Scouts. These activities will give children the opportunity to practice their social skills, build athletic skills and their confidence. There are several options at the YMCA, recreation centers and private lessons. It is important to not to over commit with too many extra-curricular activities. This can create anger and frustration with your child if they have no time to relax at home.


If you continue to have concerns about your child’s behaviors at home and school, you may want to contact a licensed counselor or your primary care physician to do an assessment. Asking for help can be difficult for families to do. Parents can view this as an opportunity to model for their child that life is a journey of learning as we search for answers to issues in our life. This process can help you to learn more about each other and grow closer emotionally as you determine which option is best for your child.