The chemistry of romance

A first kiss can offer many clues into the soul of a person. That kiss can give insight into a person's sexuality, intentions, patience and health. Research reports that 66% of women will discontinue a relationship after a first bad kiss. The science of kissing states that we smell the person we kiss and unconsciously our brain is responding to their immune system. Anthropologist Helen Fisher PhD of Rutgers University says, "That when you believe someone is a bad kisser it probably means that their immune system is wrong for you. The closer your immune system is to the person you're kissing the more likely it is that the female might reject the fetus." Over 50% of both men and women have reported that they were really attracted to someone until they kissed them.

Biological response

Pheromones are another important chemical that creates attractions which releases through the olfactory system to the brain. This triggers a biological response of "love at first sight". Expert Beverly Palmer PhD believes "that the most important sign of attraction is mutual eye contact." After the initial attraction she states that you will then witness preening from the interested male or female who will begin to mirror your behaviors of touching hair, lips, or crossing legs. This is a signal that states, "I'm interested in you."

Studies have shown that the chemical connection through mutual scents the body produces will attract a potential partner. Keeping that initial passion in a relationship is very difficult as these chemicals need to be newly stimulated. Over time relationships will move from the physical attraction to the deeper emotional intimacy. To revitalize the sexual communication in your relationship try a 10 second to one minute kiss every day. It's what the love doctor orders to arouse the love and lust in your relationship.

Persevere with your resolutions

A New Year's resolution is a ritual of hope that can provide us with the opportunity to evaluate progress with our life goals or personal growth. Unfortunately, many of us will try to begin a resolution on January 1st when we are still eating unhealthy and are transitioning back into our regular routine. Eighty percent of people who try and begin their resolution on January 1st will fail to follow through with it by January 31st. If the resolution is focused on health and fitness goals, 90% will have quit by January 15th.

Change involves sacrifice, motivation and willpower. Don't focus on your past failures in 2010. That can overwhelm your thoughts with negativity of debt accrued, pounds that were gained or relationships that failed. Begin by reviewing the positive aspects of your life. Think about things that you are proud of, what you are grateful for and how you have helped others in your life.


Babysteps

Start your resolution with small significant changes and build on each small success you experience. Set a goal to have a new experience every month this year. It can be as simple as going to a new restaurant each month, reading a book, taking a class or volunteering for a charity. Success with a simple goal will help to build confidence when pursuing a more difficult one. Reward yourself for each success. It doesn't matter how long it takes for you to reach your goal as long as you continue to make progress.

Face your fears in 2011. You will become whatever your choices are, so be fearless this year. Each day you will get closer to obtaining your goal when you begin to waiver on your resolution use your support system to help you persevere. "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." Eleanor Roosevelt